Posted by
Optimus Magnus on Friday, February 27, 2009 11:19:50 PM
I have been married to my wife for over a decade. This marriage has, at times, been an absolute piece of cake; it has also been the hardest undertaking one could ever imagine. How do we keep it going? We make each other laugh. We listen to one another (most of the time). We are there for each other. We also play grab-(butt).
WHAT?! Yes, it's true. Now and then, one of us will grab a handful of the other's backside; personally, I think it's about fifty-fifty, but I'm sure my wife will say it's closer to seventy-thirty. (Whatever.) The fact is, we have this understanding that, as long as our son doesn't see it, it's okay. By the way, those thuds you are hearing are all the personnel people out there 'dropping' bricks at what I just wrote. To them, I simply say, "No, I do not believe that sexual harrassment is okay."
Get ready for more bricks, folks. I have always maintained that the point where behavior crosses the line is when the other party doesn't adore you anymore. So, woe betide us when 'sexual harassment' becomes recognized as a legitimate reason for getting a divorce.
Much of the behavior that takes place in the dynamic of a married couple would be labeled 'sexual harrassment' if it happened in the workplace: innuendo; touching in certain places; asking for sex in exchange for favors (and vice versa). In a marriage, such behavior is properly called "just trying to get some". What if, though, some liberal judge from the Ninth Circuit decides that a person has the right to sue for divorce on the basis of such aforementioned actions having taken place? What made the behavior acceptable at one time, but not anymore? Gee, Wally; it sounds to me like one of them just doesn't like the other in the same way anymore!
My principal message is this: marriage is a wonderful and very special relationship with its own set of rules. It is set apart from all other types of relationships. It is unique. DO NOT try to drag it down to the level of a simple 'working relationship' or a shack-up. There is nothing equal to it. It is commitment. Those of you in promiscuous, free-sex shack-ups (regardless of orientation) do not have the same thing that married couples have. Same-sex marriage will not harm the institution of marriage nearly to the extent that allowing sexual harrassment standards to apply will have. Want to destroy marriage as we know it? Make a man afraid to touch his wife.